A lot of us spend our lives hoping for love. That someone special to make us feel loved. We live our lives feeling empty and lonely not realising that the answers are inside us all the time. Here is a question for you.

What do you look for in that perfect person and how many of these would you tick off on this list?

Strength

Self confidence

Kindness

Compassion

Empathy

Focused

Successful



If we are looking for these things in another person so that they can support us and make us feel loved and safe, then is it not likely that that person is looking for the same things in you?

if we do not recognise and appreciate these things in ourselves.

 how can we expect others to see them in us?

A lot of people are more critical of themselves than anyone else around them. Because they criticise themselves, they allow others to do so too. We believe people when they tell us their opinions of us and yet they do not know us.



The only person who truly knows you is you.

The only person you spend the whole of your life with is you.

The only person allowed to criticise you is you

The only person who will truly care for you above all else is you.

If you do not do this no-one will because ultimately, we are all looking after ourselves and so we should be.

Self love, is about really looking at yourself, face yourself in the mirror and look at that person. So many of us when we do this start criticising that person. They see them as too fat, too thin, too tall, too short. We need to see that person and love them as they are! Forgive that person for not being perfect, we are all human and as such we are not perfect and never will be. Know that person that you are, feel the love inside you that you so want to share and probably do in many ways that you do not recognise. Think about this now. Who or what do you love? Family, friends, your loved one, pets, your home. Think how it feels to love them and then think about how you feel about yourself.

Why do these outside things merit your love? None of them are perfect, you love them despite their faults and their imperfections because you see what is inside of them, why can you not do that for yourself?

We know no one is perfect, we accept that in other people, why can we not accept it about ourselves?                                                    Read seven ways to love yourself